For years, I rarely slept more than six hours a night during the week, propping myself up with any caffeinated beverage I could get my hands on. On weekends I’d collapse, skipping brunch, turning off my phone - anything for a little extra shut-eye.
I figured this pattern was normal. Not sleeping was a sign that I had a busy, exciting life. Then I started working at home. The two hours I used to spend getting ready and commuting every morning were two more hours I could spend under the covers. It didn’t take me long to realise that sleeping eight hours a night made me a different - nicer, saner, more together - person, despite the fact that my stress levels were sky-high because I didn’t have a steady salary.
I didn’t throw a fit when someone caused a delay in the supermarket queue. I could concentrate for longer periods of time. I did things other than sleep on weekends, and instead of falling facedown into bed every night, I had the energy to have sex with my partner - keeping us both in a better mood.
Turns out experts have a name for my old sleep habits. “Somnorexia is not getting enough sleep for days or weeks in a row, then crashing and sleeping for long periods of time,” explains neurologist Dr Anne Remmes. If you get fewer than seven hours of sleep a night during the week, and more than 10 hours a night on weekends, you fit the profile. Another clue? You can’t get through the day without loading up on caffeine.
You can’t get through the day without loading up on caffeine
Experts say this erratic sleeping cycle is all too common, especially among busy young women. But many somnorexics don’t know that their habits are unhealthy. “It’s easy to convince yourself that you can get by on five hours a night,” says Anne. “But the truth is, extremely few women can thrive on that little. Most women need a consistent eight hours to function properly. This type of sleep cycle is wreaking havoc in women’s lives.”
Why is getting eight hours a night important? “Throughout the night, your body goes through several cycles of light and deep sleep,” says sleep disorder expert Dr Susan Zafarlotfi. “You need eight hours in order to get enough of each cycle, particularly the deep stages.” During deep sleep, your cells and muscles rest and regenerate. Experts also believe that deep sleep is the time when your brain sorts memories and stores info that you’ve gathered during the day.
Regularly getting fewer than seven hours’ sleep a night can also derail your circadian rhythms - your body’s “internal clock”. Scientists are only now starting to understand these rhythms, but they do know that they help regulate energy, sleep and wake times, digestion and hormone levels. “This internal clock needs regularity to function optimally,” says Susan. “And when your sleep habits are erratic, all of the things governed by your circadian rhythms are upset. You can end up nauseous, moody and unable to concentrate.”
As important as sleep is, it’s the thing that many otherwise healthy women neglect. “We have too many things to do in 24 hours. Rather than cutting back on work or social activities, sleep is the first thing to go,” says sleep specialist James Wyatt.
When they finally do get horizontal, many somnorexics are too stressed or caffeinated to fall asleep quickly. “After days of not sleeping well, it’s difficult to get to bed at a normal time. I often use a sleeping pill to get my sleep schedule back on track,” confesses Nicole Francis, a 29-year-old retail manager.
“More and more women are turning to sleep medication to knock themselves out,” says Anne. Prescriptions for sleeping pills have increased dramatically, and women are more likely to use sleep aids than men. “While the drugs are safe and effective, they can cause psychological dependence,” warns James. Specialists agree that a better long-term choice is to get to the root of your sleep issues so you can sleep well without drugs.
Getting too little sleep can derail your internal clock
How bad is somnorexia, really?
Experts have long known that chronic sleep deprivation can lead to high blood pressure, a weakened immune system and an increased risk of depression and obesity. And while short-term sleep loss may be less devastating, it has very real effects: research shows that being sleep deprived for one day can lead to decreased reaction times and memory problems.
And perhaps the most obvious effect? An out-of-control appetite. “I end up grabbing chips or fast food and cheese when my sleep schedule is messed up,” says Jessica, 33, founder of an online art gallery. “It’s my way of coping with fatigue.”
In fact, a small study found that just two days of sleep deprivation leads to an increase in the hormone ghrelin (which triggers hunger) and a decrease in the hormone leptin (which signals when you’re full). In the study, participants reported a 23 percent to 34 percent increase in hunger. In other words, lack of sleep can make you eat up to 500 more calories a day - that’s enough to gain half a kilogram.
Can sleeping in on weekends help you rebound? No. “After one bad night, you can regain your ability to concentrate and improve your mood by catching up on sleep,” says Susan.
But somnorexics tend to skimp on sleep for days or weeks at a time. By the time they do crash, they’re already experiencing the complications of longer-term sleep deprivation. At that point, even sleeping for 12 hours straight won’t get you back to normal. “Only getting enough sleep on a regular basis can do that,” explains Susan.
How to break the somnorexic cycle
The most important thing you can do is follow a regular sleep schedule: for all seven nights a week, go to bed and wake up at the same time. Adapting to this new schedule could be a challenge, so Anne suggests creating a routine.
Get ready by… “Winding down two hours before bedtime,” advises Anne. “An hour before, get into your pyjamas, sit and read a book that takes you out of your life. This may activate your dreaming brain, helping you fall asleep when you put your head down.” If this sounds like a return to the routine you had as a toddler, remember that you won’t have to do it forever, just until you’ve learned to relax before bed.
More sleep-smart moves Limit alcohol and caffeine after lunch; both can erode sleep quality.
Another tip: Log off your computer earlier in the evening. “Women tend to check their email right before bed, but the light and the activity is stimulating, so they have a hard time getting to sleep,” says Prof Meir Kryger, author of A Woman’s Guide To Sleep Disorders (McGraw Hill, R219).
It’s not because you’re desperate to get replies from that mass email you sent out. “Circadian rhythms are greatly impacted by light - and computers are extremely powerful light sources, so your body doesn’t register that it’s time to wind down,” says Meir.
Of course, in the real world cutting back on sleep is unavoidable once in a while. When you must do so, says Susan, try not to drop below six hours - any fewer and your body won’t get through the most crucial deep-sleep stages. “Then try to catch up the next day,” she urges. If you can sleep in for an hour - or even two - do it. And, if you can fit it in, have a 30-minute nap in the afternoon.
That said, don’t spend the whole day in bed. Sleeping for more than 10 hours can throw your circadian rhythms out of whack, making it hard for you to fall (and stay) asleep at night and starting the somnorexic cycle all over again.
Getting eight hours of sleep every night - okay, almost every night - may sound like the end of your nightlife as you’ve known it, but take it from me, fitting in a little extra shut-eye doesn’t mean giving up your life; it means being able to actually enjoy it instead of going through the motions in a carboholic, zombified haze. “Just try it for a month,” says Anne. “You’ll never go back.”